Living Beyond: Forgiveness

A Monthly Column By Dr. Asa Don Brown


“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponder

Forgiveness is essential for moving beyond the problems, heartaches, and pains associated with one’s past. For so many, they choose to cling to the past. Choosing to cling to the past is like requesting to be reintroduced to those egregious events, hoping for a different result.

If you have been plagued with memories associated with your past, I beseech you to let go of those chains of bondage and begin moving forward towards health and happiness.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis B. Smedes

Living in the past may bring comfort in your familiarity, but it will not bring the real change that you have been seeking; to be released from the bondage of the past. What essentially is forgiveness? Forgiveness is the purposeful action of allowing the anger and resentment associated with one’s past to be authentically released. The byproduct of forgiveness is the ability to feel free of the burden and bondage associated with the memories that have long held you captive.

Consider the following, could you imagine being literally chained to your past. Moreover, what if each negative memory was a piece of luggage, how difficult would it be to travel? Would you have the ease of carrying a simple carryon, or would you have to request your own private jumbo jet?

“True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience.’” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Forgiveness is recognizing that while we may, or may not, be responsible for the egregious events associated with our lives; that we are ultimately responsible for making the most out of our lives. Whether you have had a life free of trauma, abuse, neglect, and addiction, or your life has been filled with the most troubling of experiences; life is about living it abundantly. If you desire to live a life filled with peace, then you must choose to move forward and move beyond the troubles associated with your life.

Living life to its fullest sees each event, whether good or bad, as an opportunity to learn. It denies the individual the ability to make excuses, rather promotes the individual to make the most out of life. Living life to its fullest recognizes that we will most assuredly encounter challenges, but that we can choose to see each challenge as a mere obstacle begging to be breached. Are you choosing to see the challenges of your life as a mere obstacle or as a permanent roadblock?.

May you begin living beyond.

Dr. Asa Don Brown

Author: Asa Don Brown, Ph.D., C.C.C., D.N.C.C.M., F.A.A.E.T.S. Website: