“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Each year we begin the New Year with a desire to renew, rejuvenate and to reinvent ourselves. Each year we create proclamations, resolutions, and heartfelt announcements that we will change. Our aspirations for change will cover a broad perspective of our lives, but you can rest assured that many of our resolutions will have to do with bad habits. We have become so accustomed to making these resolutions that we wait until the end of the year to begin anew. What if we were capable of living out our resolutions on a continuum? What if we were capable of renewing our lives on a daily basis? After all, a resolution is merely a firm and mindful decision to do, behave, or not to do something. Moreover, a resolution is a formal and contentious expression of intent; with which we are resolved and determined to do something. It is through our eagerness that we are seeking to change a singular or multiple perspectives of our lives.
Think upon the following questions:
• Are we capable of making lasting change?
• Are we hardwired to think and act in particular ways?
• What would happen if we were to change; how will we fill the void of change?
NEW YEAR, FRESH START
“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
I am a firm believer that any person, at any time, can make lasting and permanent change. As a person who has his own personal basket of peccadillos; I am continuously seeking ways to improve my life. A critical turning point in my personal and professional life occurred, when I recognized that I had been equating my personal self-worth with my successes and failures. It was a life-changing moment that began to revolutionize my way of thinking.
What drives me to seek change? Why am I concerned with improving my life? I recognized long ago, that my life has a direct and indirect impact upon others. Furthermore, I am ambitious to teach my children to live life and to live a life that is complete. I want them to learn to live life without regrets, hesitation, or fretting about pursuing any aspect of life. I want them to live a life that is more mindful, healthier and happier. Not only do I want to teach my children these necessary tools to live life abundantly, but I wanted to teach others to do the same. For if I teach those beyond my family, then I have positively effected the world with which my children reside.
I sincerely want to live a life that is more mindful, concentrated, considerate, and most of all, healthier. For me, the real secret to happiness and health is peace. New Oxford American Dictionary defines Peace as: “freedom from disturbance; free from anxiety or distress; it describes the positive perspective of peace as: quiet and tranquility; mental calm and serenity.” When we learn to live a life of peace, then they will we learn to live life abundantly.
It is through peace that our minds, bodies, and spirits can find comfort, solitude and rest.
“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man (person).” ~ Benjamin Franklin
While the very essence of a New Year’s resolution is a stimulus for good; the outcome
and follow-through of such a resolution is frequently shy of its intended target. A recent
study discovered that “while about 75% of people stick to their goals for at least a week, less than half (46%) are still on target six months later…”
The primary culprit for someone failing to achieve his or her New Year’s resolution is often a setback. Setbacks cause those who are pursuing an intended target to lose determination or confidence. When we place too much emphasis on our setbacks and not enough emphasis on our aspiration we will become disheartened. We are all going to have setbacks from time-to-time. Do not be disheartened; rather gird up your loins and follow-through with your ambition.
As with anything, it is important to routinely review your progress. As a suggestion, those who are successful regularly journal, revisit set goals, and have a limited number of goals. Moreover, they consider setbacks as a mere challenge, rather than a severing of one’s pursuits.
PURSUING THE RESOLUTION
Consider resolutions that you are capable of tackling: Do not try to build your entire house before you have learned to pour concrete. For many, they want to tackle life’s toughest challenges long before they have learned to manage the small ones.
Find an accountability partner: An accountable partner should be someone that is going to uplift you and elevate your person. You should never choose an individual who is going to put you down, belittle you, or make your pursuits seem unimportant.
Refrain from negative conversations, language, perceptions, or attitudes: Do not become entrapped by the cesspool of negativity, ultimately it will only decay and wear down your person.
Always find time for mindfulness: Relaxation is key to mindfulness and it is important for helping you to refocus on your ultimate goal of health and happiness.
Avoid environments and people who are toxic: If you have challenges, the last thing that you need to do is to invite someone or something into your life that will only prove pernicious.
Find time to meditate and breath: Breathing and meditation go hand-in-hand and are the key to learning to focus upon the positive perspectives of life.
Make time for others: True altruism occurs when we are acting out of the selfless interest of others. It is not self-seeking, self-motivated, or haughty; rather it is out of an unconditional perspective of serving our fellow human.
“Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.” ~ Brad Paisley
Be mindful when pursuing your New Year’s resolution. Pursue resolutions that will have a positive impact upon your life and others. A conscientious life is a life that is motivated to do what is right.
May you begin living beyond.
Author: Dr. Asa Don Brown, Ph.D., C.C.C., D.N.C.C.M.,