TACTICS NARCISSISTS USE TO GAIN SELF-ESTEEM AND POWER

TACTICS NARCISSISTS USE TO GAIN SELF-ESTEEM AND POWER
To some degree, most of us desire to improve our social status and acceptance, but narcissists feel compelled to. A recent study concluded that it’s their constant concern. More than most people, they look to others for “self-definition and self-esteem regulation; inflated or deflated self-appraisal...,” according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Their self-esteem fluctuates between...

SHIFT INTO A NEW IDENTITY

SHIFT INTO A NEW IDENTITY
I remember the moment I shifted. My identity, that is. And that simple event turned me in a completely different direction and marked the beginning of the long road back from addiction. Up until that shift, not only was I locked up in a treatment center, I was locked up in “my story.” And my story is what I...

THE SHAME OF ADDICTION

THE SHAME OF ADDICTION
Shame is an emotion that is well-known to all addicts. It is often the emotion that fuels addiction in the first place- the feeling of shame being so overwhelming that relief is sought within a bottle or a fix, to avoid the pain. Then, when the addiction has taken hold, there is an additional level of shame that comes...

APPROVAL SEEKING

APPROVAL SEEKING
It is possible that seeking approval is the single most common, and possibly the most painful addiction ever created by mankind. It can be more devastating than heroin, more addictive than cocaine, and more ubiquitous than food. If this sounds too dramatic, consider the following: • Wanting to end the feeling of not being loved or accepted by others often...

What Does That Mean? Early Recovery Insight

Early Recovery Insight
Recovery is the most overwhelming experience I’ve ever had.  Whether in a meeting room of complete strangers or in a treatment center learning to live among people of all backgrounds, the fear and uncertainty I dealt with was extraordinary.  I remember doing my best to participate in conversations with others yet never fully understanding all this recovery stuff they...

“We Shall Overcome…” Transcending Trauma and Thriving Through Group Psychotherapy

“We Shall Overcome…” Transcending Trauma and Thriving Through Group Psychotherapy
When I was a rookie addictions counselor, I had repeated run-ins with clinical supervisors. The conflicts centered around the abuse histories of men and women at the treatment centers where I worked. My bosses were fearful of delving into trauma. They’d say things like, “No, don’t talk to them about trauma. Don’t open any wounds. We aren’t equipped to...

Debunking Myths About Addiction Interventions

Debunking Myths About Addiction Interventions
 We bust the top three reasons why people may avoid this helpful step toward recovery. If you hear the word “intervention,” your mind may go to one you’ve seen on a popular television show or in a movie. “We need to talk,” a character may say as they gently lead their friend or family member into a room full...

How to Get the Most out of Therapy – Some Practical Tips

Get the Most out of Therapy
Therapy is experienced differently by different individuals. There is no magic wand in therapy to quickly and easily fix all problems. Instead, therapy should be seen as an investment in yourself with benefits revealing themselves as the process unfolds. A couple of questions to ask before entering therapy may be: What do I hope to get out of therapy?  Why am...

Partnership for a Drug-Free New Jersey Unveils Campaign in Times Square to Raise Awareness on Opioid Use

Drug-Free New Jersey Unveils Campaign
The New Campaign Encourages Vital Family Communication Regarding the Opioid Epidemic and COVID-19 Pandemic MILLBURN, NJ — The Partnership for a Drug-Free New Jersey (PDFNJ) today announced the unveiling of a new public health campaign featured in Times Square that is reminding families to talk to their children and communicate about the two life-threatening public concerns – the COVID-19 pandemic and...

Secrets to Make COVID-19 Holidays Bright

COVID-19 Holidays
How many times have you asked yourself, “why is this year unlike any other year?!!” while you suit up and put your mask on, or turn on your computer for just one more zoom meeting? Covid-19 has changed the way we meet, greet, and interact with the world. Now, we don’t run around hugging our friends or go to the...